Thirukural

Thiru kural is a gorgeous work, written by the revered author, Thiru Valluvar. In this work, he talks about Dharma, Kama and Artha, which are the 3 out of four objectives if live. Thiru Mandiram , which was composed by Thiru Moolar is considered the one for the fourth objective or purushartha - which is salvation or Moksha. In this work Thiru Valluvar talks greatly about Dharma, which continua the essence of Dharma Shastras.Thiru Valluvar clearly states the stuff  from Dharma Shastras .

This post would be containing references  about the Dharmic aspects of married life (Grihasthashram), duties of a  house-holder, women , etc..


42 - துறந்தார்க்கும் துவ்வா தவர்க்கும் இறந்தார்க்கும்
இல்வாழ்வான் என்பான் துணை.

Desc: Here Thiruvalluvar clearly talks about the duties of a householder. A householder ideally supports the people from Sannyasa Ashram, Brahmacharya Ashram and the Pithru or the ancestors. The third one is called as Pithru Runa or the debt, of a house holder to his ancestors. A householder also needs to support or feed the Saints or Sanyasis (Sanyasis cant cook their own food or touch the fire as per Shastras). A householder also must feed or support the Brahmachaaris, who are in the Gurukula, as they cant cook their food too.


54 - பெண்ணின் பெருந்தக்க யாவுள கற்பென்னும்
திண்மைஉண் டாகப் பெறின்.


Desc: If a woman decides to be armed with chastity or the jewel of Pathivrathayam  she doesn't need any more decorations or ornaments. Here Thiruvalluvar clearly mentions that, if a woman is rich etc.. by cheating her husband, its very bad and worse than a loyal, truthful wife. 

55 - தெய்வம் தொழாஅள் கொழுநற் றொழுதெழுவாள்
பெய்யெனப் பெய்யும் மழை. 

Desc: This kural is the peak of Hindu or Indian culture. For women there are no special pujas etc..or religious duties. Her primary duty is to take care of the household and her husband. The word Pathivrutha is actually, much more than loyalty etc.. A true Pathivrutha takes, service to her husband as the primary ambition or goal of her life. She lives as truly two bodies and one Soul with her husband. Savithri (Satyavan's wife) is ideally associated with this Kural,a s she brought back er husband form the clutches of Yama. So did Kannaki- who brunt an entire city for punishing her husband (wrongly). Here Valluvar is stating the glories of a Pathivrutha - she has control over the nature and Pacha Bhootham. If a Pathivrutha  who worships her husband (and not the God), wishes or orders, the Rain God will immediately bless and pour his blessings as rain. So was the case with Nalayini  When she ordered the Sun, not to riase the until her husband was proven innocent, Sun God obeyed her order and it was dark until she approved it.Women are respected , protected, revered and even worshiped for such great virtues - and not for being independent and defeating their husbands in a legal combat etc. Unfortunately such virtuous women can only be found in myths there days.

56 - தற்காத்துத் தற்கொண்டாற் பேணித் தகைசான்ற
சொற்காத்துச் சோர்விலாள் பெண். 

Desc: A true lady or Pathivrutha, will protect or take care of herself , serve her husband and control her words. Controlling of words is a very mandatory skill for a woman in household. How ever talented or independent a  woman is, if she lacks any of those qualities , and esp. controlling her anger and words, she is certainly unfit to be called a woman. Women are the torch-bearers of our culture, and if they go uncontrolled and cant control their own words, that would lead to a social disaster.

121 - அடக்கம் அமரருள் உய்க்கும் அடங்காமை
ஆரிருள் உய்த்து விடும்.

Desc: This is another important kural, related to patience, tolerance and forbearance.  While this is applicable all humans, in the context of a family it is more applicable to women as they tend to be more emotional. Being tolerant to the elders in the home, kids and one's spouse is very important for a woman. Such virtuous women would be placed with celestial(s)  while the impatient ones would be reserved a permanent place in hell. This also is applicable for bodily pleasures etc..